Sep. 3, 2019

WORDS AREN'T NECESSARY-- WHEN YOUR LIPS SPEAK THE PERFECT KISS...

 

 

My first kiss happened the summer between the 9th and 10th grades in high school.  I’d probably had a crush on David Breshears from the first day I saw him at church. He was three years older,  tall and thin, had a handsome face with two distinct dimples….and carried himself with a certain air of “mystery”. David seemed matter-of-fact…. not particularly friendly...which made him appear “hard to get.”

I was lifeguarding at The Reservation Swimming Pool the Thursday David asked me out. He simply said he’d like to take me to a movie the next night and I quickly said “yes”.  I don’t remember the movie….or what I wore…but I do remember The Kiss. 

At the end of the evening, David parked in front of my family’s home, turned off the car, and without saying one word….kissed me on the lips.  It was a brief kiss….very businesslike, with no frills and….as soon as it started….it ended.

Still silent, David opened his door, walked around the car, opened my door and quietly escorted me to my front door. Before turning to walk away, he said only two words “Good Night”.  David never looked back in my direction….not even one glance. Everything was over before it started.

I’ve learned a lot about kissing since my very-brief experience with David.  Kissing is a two-way exchange.  No one should dominate the action.  Think of it as a silent-communication between two people-- like sign language. Kissing should be the ultimate in emotional expression.  A Kiss can convey an exciting message of endless possibilities or serve as a brick wall of hopeless reality.

Long ago, I learned..if I wanted to be “really good” at something...I must practice.   Since I loved to kiss, I began testing the old saying “Practice makes perfect.”   I’ve never regretted the time and energy I spent--all those years--kissing.  Today, I consider myself  an expert on "the art of the kiss".

Kissing is so much more than lips and tongues....and other physical“accessories”.  If you are incapable of submitting your total-being for every kiss then...your wasting your time. 

Many men and women are physically attractive….with good looks, great bodies, elegant style, a wonderful smell, perfect teeth….but that doesn't mean they know how to kiss. Too many people have mechanical moves and merely offer a quick kiss or two-- like robots-- before hurrying into love-making. 

These amateurs have no depth; they are deadly-cold and void of emotions. Kissing any of them would be like kissing a porcelain toilet bowl(Yes, I've kissed a few toilet seats, lids, and bowls in my life----just read my book: THE BEAUTY QUEEN.)

To be a great kisser, you must be familiar with your own mouth….and know what turns-you-on .  Remember, kissing is a partnership. Training your mouth to give pleasure as well as receive it..requires patience but….it's worth it.

Begin by licking your lips; feel your tongue as it moves around your mouth, wetting both the inside and outside.  Close your eyes and concentrate on what feels good, what you like, what seems enjoyable.

Next...open your mouth to form an oval. Now, let your tongue keep moving all around your lips while applying different degrees of pressure.  For several minutes… practice pulling your lips together then, routinely, parting them with your tongue, ever-so-slowly, so gently.   Finally, pucker your lips… while your tongue slides in and out. Learn to pucker-up often--to exercise your lip and tongue muscles.

For the Finale, try a little “Bill Clinton” by lightly-biting your bottom lip….then holding it for a short while. Try the same by holding your top lip with your bottom teeth.  Sensitize/Exercise your lips and tongue muscles daily….feel the energy, the blood flow, and learn to express yourself through your lips, your tongue---your whole mouth. 

Never take your lips, tongue, and teeth… for granted. They are valuable assets and will make all-the-difference when communicating your thoughts and desires with someone who is "special".

Never forget--- Kissing is a partnership. The two of you are responsible for the tempo and rythmn of the kiss.  Everything starts with The Kiss so don't get too excited-- too quickly--or be "in a hurry." Concentrate on building the magic;on making each moment count.  The right kiss can open the door to endless possibilities so---WHERE a kiss leads---depends on you.

As an outstanding performer once said: "Be the best you can be at whatever you do and..... always leave your audience begging for more.”

Stay Close,

Sally