Sep. 17, 2020

NEVER FEAR CHANGE...ESPECIALLY WHEN IT'S FOR THE BETTER.

Growing older has changed me. I continue to face financial challenges, small-minded people, undeserved criticism, and emotional loss, only now—nothing affects me like it once did.

Over time, I stopped caring what others thought; I stopped hiding my stress and insecurities; I opened-up to therapists about my shameful secret and—I faced my past.

I learned why I search for love in all the wrong places and, with all the wrong people. I examined my fear of being alone and other lifetime fears. I talked out-loud about loving and losing; about being abandoned by those most-dear to my heart.

After a while I stopped crying—stopped talking—and began writing.

Recently, I jotted down a few suggestions for " WHAT TO CHANGE...WHEN GROWING UP AND GROWING OLDER". 

1.  After a lifetime of loving parents, siblings, spouses, children, and friends, it's now time to love ourselves.  

2.  I've learned I'm not Super-Human; The world does not rest on my shoulders.

3.  Don't"remind' anyone that you've heard their same stories endless times. Understand that re-telling those stories again and again helps them walk down memory lane, relive their past, and feel alive-again.

4.  Don't  correct people even when you know they are wrong. The onus of making everyone perfect is not on us. Peace is more precious than perfection.

5.  Give compliments freely, often, and generously. Compliments are  mood enhancers not only for the recipients, but also for the givers. And a small tip for the recipient of a compliment: NEVER turn it down. Graciously Smile.... and say "Thank You"!

6.  I walk away from people who don't value me. They might not know my worth, but I do.

7. I'm no-longer embarrassed by my emotions; I don't apologize for my tears. 

8. Do what makes you happy.  Each of us is responsible for our own happiness so make yourself happy---you deserve it. 

9. I am learning to live every day as if it's my last. After all-- one day--it will truly be my final day on  this earth. 

10. And, each time I say good-bye to a friend, a helper, an animal, even the end of the day----I never fail to say "THANK YOU, GOD".

I am responsible for being the very-best "ME"--at every age. 

Sally