LOVE IS NOT A ONE-WAY-STREET BUT...A SHARED STREET ... WITH TWO-WAY-TRAFFIC.
I’d been in my Chinese Apartment on the grounds of Beijing Broadcasting Institute, fifteen miles outside Beijing, for approximately five days… when a Chinese Teacher visited me.
Mae Lee was the Broadcasting Institute’s Chinese Expert in Teaching English to the Institute’s top students. These were the fifteen students who’d been selected to study with me to perfect their on-air television skills in news reporting, celebrity interviews, weather reporting, and news anchoring.
Within fifteen minutes, Mae Lee and I became immediate “old” friends. We were both in our early fifties and Mae Lee spoke “Southern” English…which certainly made me feel quite “at home”. I was delighted to learn she'd lived in Kentucky for four years-- as an exchanged student-- and even received her Masters from the University of Kentucky.
Most-curious to me was when she mentioned she was married …and away from her husband…for the entire four years. And that’s when she began describing her very-strange marriage…a marriage so-completely-different from a typical American marriage…I had to listen.
She married a Chinese she met at Beijing University who seemed to have her same interests and who also came from a very-respected family. It was only after the marriage ceremony---she realized his idea of sexual intercourse was completely different from anything she expected, ever heard about, or been taught. Traditionally, Asian women follow their husbands’ wishes; almost-all married women allow their husbands to “lead” and they “follow”.
By this time, I wanted to hear more about Mae Lee’s marriage and her husband so natural---I began asking questions. I learned she was 22 years old when she married and 38 years old when she divorced and…at the time she divorced….Mae Lee was still a Virgin. Sounds incredible…right?!?!?
And then…I learned more than I needed to know yet…I had to listen:
From the day they married, Mae Lee’s husband insisted they have sex but…only one way…and that was Anal Sex. She still remembers the pain, the bleeding, and the days of agonizing soreness….but she never complained because---Chinese Women are taught to be strong and---must never appear weak. She dared-not questioned WHY her husband refused to have traditional sex. She never asked him if it was because he didn’t want her to get pregnant OR because his penis was the size of a young child’s OR because all his sexual encounters before her-- had been with males.
Whatever the reason, Mae Lee loved her four years in America, especially her “great escape” from wifely “duties”.
And, I promised to never tell anyone in China… how much she'd enjoyed watching porno “flicks” while living in Kentucky. It was actually Pornography that helped Mae Lee make the decision to divorce her husband…once she returned to China. She resented her husband now-- more than ever-- and had no interest in being with him again. Mae Lee felt she’d been “missing out” on one of life’s most-enjoyable pleasures!
A few years after her divorce, Mae Lee found a retired Chinese Army General she liked and---who treated her like a queen. Seems he “introduced” her to romance and traditional sex and she “could-hardly get enough”!
Mae Lee and the General never married but…as she liked to say...her favorite Porn Stars never married either---at least not in their movies. And, she was certain they never had "backward" sex.