SEX SHOULD BE A SHARED ACTIVITY BETWEEN TWO ADULTS...WHO FIND MUTUAL SATISFACTION.
I’d been in my Chinese Apartment on the grounds of Beijing Broadcasting Institute, fifteen miles outside Beijing, for approximately five days… when a Chinese Teacher visited me.
Mae Lee was the Broadcasting Institute’s Chinese Expert in Teaching English to the Institute’s top students. These were the fifteen students who’d been selected to study with me to perfect their on-air television skills in news reporting, celebrity interviews, weather reporting, and news anchoring.
Within fifteen minutes, Mae Lee and I became…“old” friends. We were both in our early fifties and Mae Lee spoke “Southern” English…which certainly made me feel quite “at home”. I was delighted to learn she had once lived in Kentucky (four years) as an exchange teacher-- and even received her Masters from the University of Kentucky.
Most-curious to me was when she mentioned she was married--and away from her husband--during those four years. And that’s when she began describing her very-strange marriage--a marriage so-completely-different from a “typical” American marriage--I had to listen.
She married a Chinese Man she met at Beijing University who seemed to have her same interests and who also came from a very-respected family. It was only after the marriage ceremony---she realized his idea of sexual intercourse was completely different from anything she had ever heard about, or been taught. Traditionally, most Chinese wives follow their husbands’ wishes; most women allow their husbands to “lead” and they “follow”.
By this time, I wanted to hear more about Mae Lee’s marriage and her husband so--- naturally---I began asking questions. I learned she was 22 years old when she married and 48 years old when she divorced. At the time she divorced….Mae Lee was still a Virgin. Sounds incredible…right?!?!?
And then…I almost learned more than I needed to know but…I had to listen:
From the day they married-- Mae Lee’s husband insisted they have sex but only one way. Her husband would only accept Anal Sex. Mae Lee described the pain, the bleeding, and the days of agonizing soreness….but she never complained because---Chinese Women are taught to be strong and must never appear weak.
And she dared-not question WHY her husband refused to have traditional sex. She never asked him if it was because he didn’t want her to get pregnant OR if it was because his penis was very small…like the penis of a small child.
Mae Lee loved her four years as a single in America. I promised to never tell anyone in China… how much she enjoyed watching porno “flicks” while she was living in Kentucky.
It was actually Pornography that helped Mae Lee make the decision to divorce her husband--once she returned to China. She realized how much she resented her husband and had no interest in being with him—ever again. Mae Lee felt she’d been “missing out” on one of life’s most-enjoyable pleasures!
A few years after her divorce, Mae Lee met a retired Chinese Military General who treated her like a queen. Seems he “introduced” her to romance and traditional sex and... she “could-hardly get enough”!
Mae Lee and the General never married but…as she liked to say...her favorite Porn Stars never married either---at least not in their movies. And, she never once saw them have anal sex.