Jan. 13, 2022

IF YOU DON'T KISS WELL---NOTHING ELSE MATTERS.

  NEVER under-estimate A Kiss.  In my opinion---A Kiss is either the spark that lights the Bonfire or--it's a major "warning" concerning any future excitement.

I've had a lot of experience with KISSING. It's always fun to do that which you enjoy most. Certain lips are irresistible and---inevitably-- lead to amazing possibilities.

 I believe ANY and ALL Romance begins---- with the perfect kiss.

Some time ago, I saw an article titled, “How to be a good kisser”.  After giving the article a fast-read, I had to laugh.  The title was misleading and totally-wrong.  A more accurate title would have been:  "How to lather-on a little spit to better-insert a big foot.”

My first kiss happened the summer between my 9th and 10th grades in high school.  I’d probably had a crush on David Breshears from the day I saw him at church. He was tall and thin, had a handsome face with two distinct dimples---and carried himself with an air of “mystery”. David seemed matter-of-fact-- not particularly friendly--which made him appear “hard to get.”

I was lifeguarding at The Reservation Swimming Pool --on the memorable day-- David asked me out. He simply said he’d like to take me to a movie the next night and I quickly said “yes.”  I don’t remember the movie--or what I wore--but I easily-remember The Kiss.

At the end of the evening, David parked in front of my family’s home, turned off the car, and without saying one word---kissed me on the lips.  It was a brief kiss--very businesslike with no frills, and---as soon as it started---it ended.

Still silent, David opened his door, walked around the car, opened my door and quietly escorted me to my front door. Before turning to walk away, he said only two words “Good Night.”  David never looked back--not even one, backward- glance. Everything was over before it started.

I’ve learned a lot about kissing since my very-brief experience with David.  Kissing is a two-way exchange.  No one should dominate the action.  Think of it as a silent-yet perfect-communication between two people--like sign language. Kissing should be the ultimate in emotional expression.  A Kiss can either convey an exciting message of endless possibilities or serve as a permanent barrier--like a dead-end street.

After discovering how much I enjoyed kissing-- I decided to test the old saying “Practice makes perfect.”   I’ve never regretted the many years I’ve practiced---kissing.   These days, I consider myself an expert on what makes an exciting kiss.

Kissing is so much more than just the lips and the tongue---and all the “accessories”. Warning: If your emotions aren’t involved, The Kiss is a waste of everyone's time. 

 Some men and women have the ultra-appeal---good looks, great body, elegant style, wonderful smell, perfect teeth….but they don’t know the first thing about kissing. Too many people are superficial, mechanical, and kiss like robots. A few are completely cold and unresponsive-- like kissing a porcelain toilet (Yes, I've kissed a few toilets in my day----just read my book....THE BEAUTY QUEEN.)

IF YOU REALLY WANT TO BE A GREAT KISSER, you must first-- get acquainted with your own mouth---so you can begin to "make the most with what you've got."  Start by closing your eyes. True Romantics never kiss with their eyes open!!!!! Now-- lick your lips.  Then allow your tongue to move around your lips, wetting both the inside and outside while you concentrate on what feels good-- what you like and-- what "turns you on."

Slowly open your mouth to form an oval. Let your tongue move around your lips--- while it applies different degrees of pressure.  For several minutes---practice pulling your lips together then, slowly and gently--- part them with your tongue.   Finally, try puckering your lips-- while your tongue slides in and out. Yes, learn to pucker-up!

For the Big Finale--try a little “Bill Clinton” by lightly-biting your bottom lip, holding it for a few seconds before letting it slowly slip through your teeth. Try the same by holding your top lip with your bottom teeth.  Sensitize your lips and tongue daily and---feel the energy as the blood flows.  Practice expressing yourself by using your lips and tongue-- all your mouth.

Never take your lips, your tongue--or even your teeth--for granted. These are your most-valuable assets and can make all-the-difference when you want to fully- communicate with someone special.

Remember, kissing is a partnership and both partners set the tempo.  Everything centers on The Kiss so don't get too excited-- too quickly. And--never be "in a hurry."  Concentrate on the Magic; Enjoy the Moment. Don't think about anything but The Kiss.  Remember: Anyone can learn to be a Good Kisser.   But--to be a “great” Kisser means-- Your Kiss is so alive with passion and emotion that your partner's lips respond with the same message.

Where a kiss leads--could well-depend on you and---how-well you kiss.  As an outstanding performer once said: "Be the best you can be and---always leave them wanting more!”