Jan. 31, 2022

MAKING LOVE----IS NOT A "ONE-WAY STREET."

I’d been in my Chinese Apartment on the grounds of Beijing Broadcasting Institute--for only four days--when a Chinese Teacher came to see me.

Mae Lee was the Broadcasting Institute’s Chinese Expert in Teaching English to the Institute’s top students.  In fact, she was the teacher for the fifteen students who would now be studying with me.  I was hired as the Institue's first Communication Specialist to improve the on-air television skills for these highly-qualified students--- in all areas of their Television news reporting, celebrity interviews, weather reporting, and news anchoring.

Within fifteen minutes, Mae Lee and I became “old” friends. We were both in our early fifties and Mae Lee spoke “Southern” English--which certainly made me feel “at home.”  I was delighted to learn Mae Lee had lived in Kentucky for four years as an exchanged student. She had also received her Masters from the University of Kentucky.

Most-curious was the fact that--for four years--she was married but--- lived totally-separate-and-apart from her husband.  And, when Mae Lee began describing her very-strange marriage--a marriage so-completely-different from any marriage I'd ever heard about--I continued to listen and learn.

She married a Chinese student she met while attending Beijing University who had her same interests and also came from a very-respected family. It was only after the official marriage ceremony---she learned his idea of sexual intercourse was completely different from anything she expected, ever heard about, or could-imagine.  Traditionally, Asian women follow their husbands’ wishes-- in all areas of their lives. 

By this time, I was fascinated and needed more answers about Mae Lee’s marriage so--- naturally---I asked more questions. I learned she was 22 years old when she married and 38 years old when she divorced.  At the time she divorced--Mae Lee was STILL a Virgin. Sounds incredible--right?!?!?

And then--learning even more--I heard the un-imaginable:

From the day they married, Mae Lee’s husband insisted on having lots of sex but--only one way.  And that "one way" was--anal sex. She described the pain, the bleeding, and her days of agonizing soreness but-- she never complained because---Chinese Women are taught to be strong and---to never appear weak. 

She dared-not questioned WHY her husband refused to have traditional sex.  She never asked if it was because he didn’t want her to get pregnant-- OR because his penis was the size of a young child’s-- OR because--all his sexual encounters before her-- had been with males.

For whatever reason-- Mae Lee loved her four years in America-- especially her “great escape” from her distasteful “duties.”  I promised to never tell anyone in China--how much Mae Lee enjoyed watching porno “flicks” while living in Kentucky.  It was actually Pornography that helped Mae Lee make the decision to divorce her husband—once she’d returned to China. After learning a “better way’ in America, she lost all interest in staying married to her husband.  Mae Lee felt that for years,  she’d been “missing out”on one of life’s most-enjoyable pleasures!

A few years after her divorce, Mae Lee met a retired Chinese Army General who showered her with attention and treated her like a queen.   He also “introduced” her to old-fashioned romance and traditional sex and—she sounded like a “brand new bride” as she told me about her “new” life.

Mae Lee and the General never married but--as she liked to say-- her favorite Porn Stars never married either---at least-- not in their movies.  She was also certain---they avoided "backward" sex.