STAND YOUR GROUND.
From My Book: THE BEAUTY QUEEN, Let No Deed Go Unpublished:
"After the divorce, my ex-husband, Jack, saw his children whenever it was convenient for him. Not even once---did he spend any “alone- time” with his two daughters. Each time he arranged to visit his children, Jack made sure he brought his “date." Very soon, he narrowed his secretarial pool down to the one who supposedly took the best "oral dictation"----a real talent.
One afternoon, Jack called about taking his daughters to dinner the next evening. I was scheduled to work that evening-- and had already hired a sitter but--- I said it would be fine. The sitter would be at the house when he picked his daughters up and when he brought them home. By the time I returned home-- later that evening-- both girls were already in bed. Before leaving, the sitter who appeared quite-nervous--- thought I should know that the woman with the children’s father had come inside and toured the house. The sitter apologized, saying she didn’t know how to stop her.
The next month, when Jack came to take the girls to dinner, I was in the front yard watering the grass. I watched his secretary---- soon-to-be my children's stepmother and-dressed-to-impress-------confidently-open the door to get out of the car as Jack walked toward me. I raised my voice so both would hear: “Stay in the car, Ann. Jack can pick-up his daughters without your help.” She hesitated and, when Jack reached the front door, I addressed him face to face:
“I suggest you keep your sidekick in the car when you pick up your daughters. If she EVER puts even one foot on my property—again-- I’ll give her a much-needed shower with my water hose.”
Looking like he wanted to punch me in the face, Jack replied, “You are one crazy bitch!” Smiling sweetly (I’d had years of practice) I replied: “EXACTLY. And—the very reason WHY the two of you should stop harrassing me. Crazy Bitches are known to do Real-Crazy Things.”
PS--Yes, that's my "ex" on his motorbike. He also built model airplanes. Let's just say---no one every accused him of being "real-manly." But, he did fit the description of a typical BULLY, a NARCISSIST, a WOMANIZER, and---a CHEAT.